Two ex-special operations guys armed with MBAs seek out people leading lives less ordinary, in order to find out how they fill their ‘unforgiving minutes’, and what helps them go, always, a little further. Like intellectual bowerbirds, we collect shiny little objects of knowledge that will help build better humans. Co-hosted by Ben Pronk and Tim Curtis.
Episodes
Friday Sep 25, 2020
Friday Sep 25, 2020
David Gillespie describes himself as a father of six, a recovering corporate lawyer, a former co-founder of a successful software company and the author of eight bestselling books. He is widely known for his book Sweet Poison, which he wrote after recognising that the traditional dietary advice he was being sold wasn’t working. Since then, he has written extensively on issues that are close to his heart, including his latest work Teen Brain. This fantastic book should be compulsory reading for anyone who has anything to do with a teenager – it explains in very accessible terms the chemistry of teenager’s brains and why this makes them so susceptible to addiction to the ‘porns’ of the modern tech environment – ‘danger porn’ and ‘approval porn’. In this interview, David shares with us the key points from his book, as well as some practical advice for parents to address this scary and unprecedented
Intelligence Summary (INTSUM)
01:05 The Social Dilemma on Netflix – David recommends this as a great source of information from the tech perspective on how social media applications are being deliberately designed to be addictive
04:13 David’s background, and the catalyst for writing Sweet Poison
07:30 Debunking the myth that dietary fat makes you fat – and that sugar is OK
10:30 What on earth is going on in a teenager’s brain? The biochemical answer: the importance of dopamine and GABA, and how these relate to addiction
16:30 The unique environment teenagers are facing at the moment – a drop in certain addictions, but a scary rise in new ones, enabled by smart devices
19:30 Would Steve Jobs let his kids have an iPad?
23:00 The ‘perfect storm’ of adolescent hormonal states and addictive software
23:46 The desire for risk in teenage boys, and how it is being exploited by ‘danger porn’ - online gambling and gaming
25:50 Teenage anxiety and depression rates have doubled in 10 years
27:00 How can we separate the good from the bad on our teenager’s devices?
28:20 Is anyone addicted to Microsoft Excel?!
31:10 What’s the difference between TV and social media – and how to address the question of connectivity with friends
34:20 How to parent against these challenges
36:00 The evolution of parenting styles over the last century
39:00 The relationship between demand feeding as a baby – and parental confidence later on in life
42:00 Using devices as sedatives
43:15 How we learn from our brain’s reward system
46:16 Why all babies are psychopaths
47:00 Rules: their importance and how to set them
48:05 Celia Lashlie’s outstanding book He’ll Be OK
49:50 Why parents need to harden up to save their kids
54:00 The importance of consequences – natural and imposed
55:30 Corporal punishment as a consequence?
57:15 Rite of Passage events
58:20 Why women bothered to invent men….
External Links
Music
The Externals – now available on Spotify