Two ex-special operations guys armed with MBAs seek out people leading lives less ordinary, in order to find out how they fill their ‘unforgiving minutes’, and what helps them go, always, a little further. Like intellectual bowerbirds, we collect shiny little objects of knowledge that will help build better humans. Co-hosted by Ben Pronk and Tim Curtis.
Episodes
Thursday Sep 15, 2022
Thursday Sep 15, 2022
Our chat today is with world champion para-surfer Sam Bloom, and her husband Cam. Born on the Northern Beaches of Sydney, Sam had everything she had always dreamed of. She’d travelled extensively, fulfilled her childhood dream of becoming a nurse and was a happily married mother of three young boys.
But without warning, the dream turned into a nightmare when on a 2013 family holiday in Thailand, Sam fell through a rotten balcony railing and crashed six metres onto the concrete below.
Lucky to be alive, she’d suffered devastating injuries, including severe damage to her spinal cord that left her paralysed from the chest down. Broken and hopeless, Sam reached her outer limits of physical and mental suffering. But with courage, determination and a little help from an unlikely feathered friend, she made her way back from the edge, scarred but undefeated. 'How' is the subject of this podcast episode.
6:00 Sam and Cam’s background, and how they met…
11:30 Talking the importance of travel in the like of the Blooms
16:00 That fateful trip to Thailand
18:30 Moving hospital to hospital… to hospital
19:40 Sam’s recollection of the incident
21:20 ‘Memories are so subjective’
25:00 When Sam realises the severity of the incident…
26:20 Cam is mopping up and trying to hold it together while Sam spends months in hospital
30:00 Sam arrives home… and its not how you think she would be
32:00 Enter penguin .. a fluffy magpie chick. Life changes
36:00 Cam and his accompanying photography. What he couldn’t photograph
38:20 How about the impact on the boys?
43:00 How the book started
52:00 Recruiting the actors for the movie version of the book
54:10 Doing time with their Hollywood counterparts… and shooting in their own home
59:15 Sam reconnects with her passion of surfing
1:02:00 SurfLakes Yeppoon … artificial surf facility in Queensland
1:05:00 Australian Championships- Surfing …and what’s next
External Links
https://www.facebook.com/sambloomaustralia
https://www.instagram.com/samjbloom/
Contact Us
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
THE RESILIENCE RETREAT INFORMATION
Be guests of the authors of The Resilience Shield between 27-30 October 2022 on Fitzroy Island off Cairns, North Queensland, Australia
Info and bookings here: https://resilienceshield.com/retreat/
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Mitchell Martin- – available on Spotify
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
We first spoke to David way back in Season 3, when he was kind enough to dial in from Antarctica and talk about his experiences as an Australian Antarctic Division Station Leader. At the time of that episode, David’s team’s trip had already been extended due to COVID, however at that point, he didn’t realise just how long he would be on the ice for, nor what sorts of challenges his trip would present him with. Turns out, the total deployment time was 537 Days, which ended up being the name of his outstanding new book.
In this episode, we catch up with David to talk about how the remainder of his time on the ice panned out and what leadership challenges he faced while deployed – including right up until the very last minute! In the process, we’ll ask him about the specific leadership challenges he faced, how to deal with an extreme medical emergency in such austere conditions and the significance of the midwinter celebration for expeditioners. Along the way, we'll also explore how he found the writing process and find out what was the first thing he did when he got back to Australia.
5:00 Picking up where we left off (from our last chat with David, Season 3 Episode 3)
6:02 On the writing process – what was it like collating his experiences into his book
10:10 How did David break the news to his team that they wouldn’t be going home when they expected to?
17:50 How do you galvanise the team after such disappointing news?
24:00 The importance of affiliative leadership in the AAD environment – plus the other leadership styles David found himself using
26:30 How can you achieve work-life boundaries when you are living at work?
28:30 The medical capability that David’s team had – and how they used this during an emergency
31:00 The very real threat of a COVID outbreak on station
34:06 After 537 days on the ice, surely nothing else could go wrong?! Incorrect – Dave talks about the fire on the vessel during his return journey
43:05 The significance of midwinter for expeditioners
46:30 What makes a good Antarctic expeditioner?
48:00 What are David’s most memorable ‘#Antarctica’ moments?
50:40 What was the first thing David did when he got back to Australia?
56:50 What’s next for David?
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
External Links
David’s website
Signed copies of David’s book
Media and reviews on David’s book at these links: here, here and here.
Hear David’s story at your next corporate function – click here for speaking engagements
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Beau Miles is an award winning filmmaker, PhD, a poly-jobist, speaker, writer and oddball. His YouTube Channel houses his movies which have been watched millions of times. One short film, ‘Running a marathon a mile at a time’ has been viewed over 4 millions times.
It’s a bit better that our YouTube channel!
We talk life and living. The importance of art and where Beau gets his mad ideas!
Tune in. Beau is certainly filling his unforgiving minutes with 60 seconds worth of distance run.
6:00 Who is Beau Miles…. And introduction
8:40 Giving kids space to find themselves
14:10 What is a poly-jobist?
16:30 Has Beau found his Ikigai?
18:30 Talking YouTube…. Crazy tasks and whacky ideas. What was the most punishing?
24:00 Do we have free will? Where are we relative to computers and AI?
28:15 Where do the ideas come from?
38:00 Talking art and pop.
40:40 Can you make it on YouTube? What’s the recipe?
46:00 Talking about the book- ‘The Backyard Adventurer’
50:00 How does the family keep up?
54:00 Talking music with Beau…..
External Links
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm325cMiw9B15xl22_gr6Dw
Contact Us
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
THE RESILIENCE RETREAT INFORMATION
Be guests of the authors of The Resilience Shield between 27-30 October 2022 on Fitzroy Island off Cairns, North Queensland, Australia
Info and bookings here: https://resilienceshield.com/retreat/
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Thursday Jul 21, 2022
Thursday Jul 21, 2022
When many of us think about marijuana, our immediate thoughts are of illicit use. But across the world, this attitude is changing as researchers uncover the benefits of medicinal marijuana across a range of conditions. Progression within Australia has been relatively slow, however our guest this week aims to speed things up in this groundbreaking area.
Dr Michael Mumford started his career as an Australian Army engineer and saw operational service in Afghanistan with the Special Operations Engineer Regiment. He then studied postgraduate medicine through the army and is now working to increase awareness of the medicinal benefits of cannabinoids, including for the treatment of PTSD in the veteran community.
5:05 About Michael – early years…
5:20 ..and into the Army as an engineer within the Special Operations Engineer Regiment, and then into postgraduate study as a doctor with the Army
14:50 How Michael got interested in the potential of cannabinoids as a treatment protocol (including perspectives from Michael’s German Shorthaired Pointer!)
17:35 Given the amount of research supporting its use, why has it taken so long for medicinal marijuana to be accepted within medical applications?
19:05 How does medicinal marijuana differ from what you might buy on the street?
25:55 Current resistance within the medical community
30:30 Michael’s research project with the University of Wollongong
35:30 What is the Veteran Access Scheme – and how can people can access it through the Provocatus website
39:50 What’s next for Michael – and what he hopes to see in the medicinal marijuana space
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
External Links
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Monday Jul 04, 2022
Monday Jul 04, 2022
Let’s talk how to focus! Nir Eyal’s is an incredible thinker- describing himself as a ‘behavioural design expert’- which is the point of intersection between psychology, technology, and business. Then add some behavioural economics, and a twist of neuroscience.
Our conversation in this episode ranges from how to be ‘indistractable’- the title of Nir’s book (and a word he invented), but also what tools and techniques can bring us to a pont of focus. And what about neurochemistry- is it real, or do we use it as an excuse? How can we correctly allocate time to things ….. and can we be bored!?
Nir has a Stanford MBA and is a best-selling author, who later went back to teach a course on product design at the Stanford University School of Engineering.
Nir’s books are Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life.
Your toolkit to being Indistractable is after the timeline….
5:00 Nir’s background and explanation of his expertise.
8:40 Old philosophy on distractions- everything old is new again!
10:00 The four pillars of becoming indistractable
17:25 Does neurochemistry and the reward pathway drive our distract-ability?
19:50 The place of Locus of Control when considering distraction. Ben talks self awareness…. Curiosity instead of contempt
22:50 How do we get motivated?
29:50 Work, you and relationships- how they nest.
35:50 Psychological transitions and deliberate breaks.
39:45 How do we surf the urge?
48:10 How do customers get hooked on products?
51:20 What is Nir’s power song!?
External Links
https://www.nirandfar.com/about-nir-eyal/
-Link to the book:: http://geni.us/Indistractable
-Indistractable bonus content is here: http://nirandfar.com/indistractable
-Indistractable summary article: https://www.nirandfar.com/skill-of-the-future/
-Distraction guide here: https://www.nirandfar.com/distractions/
-Habits vs routines article here: https://www.nirandfar.com/habits/
-Why schedules are better than to-do lists: https://www.nirandfar.com/todo-vs-schedule-builder/
-Time boxing article: https://www.nirandfar.com/timeboxing
-Values article: https://www.nirandfar.com/common-values/
-Habit tracker - https://www.nirandfar.com/habit-tracker/
-Also, the schedule maker tool Nir mentioned is here: https://nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/
Contact Us
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
THE RESILIENCE RETREAT INFORMATION
Be guests of the authors of The Resilience Shield between 27-30 October 2022 on Fitzroy Island off Cairns, North Queensland, Australia
Info and bookings here: https://resilienceshield.com/retreat/
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Saturday Jun 25, 2022
Saturday Jun 25, 2022
Mark Wales is one of our favourite guests – so much so that Ben can’t remember how many times he’s been on the show (turns out this is only the second). But each time has been a great conversation, and this is certainly no exception. Mark, fresh off his momentous half-million dollar Survivor: Blood and Water victory, joins Ben and Tim to talk all things reality TV, tough luxury, fathering, books, music, Anzac Day….and conspiracy theories. A must-listen episode!
3:25 Welcoming Mark back for the second – or is it third?! – no, wait – second time!
5:30 On Survivor – second time around
7:00 The dangers of playing tactics on Survivor – with your wife! (or – can you leave all that stuff on set, or does some of it come home with you?!)
8:55 How does Survivor compare with the SAS selection course?
11:05 The trappings of reality TV fame – how often does Mark get recognised in the street?!
15:09 Mark’s reflections on being an author
19:00 What does Anzac Day mean to Mark?
21:30 A quick detour into opinions on Australian defence capability
24:45 Mark on parenting – and on leaving his four year-old son Harry to play Survivor
29:51 Ben on helicopter parenting
32:00 Kill Kapture – has Survivor and Mark’s book moved the needle on jacket sales? Includes some great whiskey discussion – and some discussion about great whiskey, including WhipperSnapper (click here for our discussion with Jimmy McKeown, Master Distiller at WhipperSnapper)
38:30 A few questions and comments from the Instagram livestream
39:30 Mark’s current fitness regime – and how did he prepare for Survivor – from a physical and mental perspective
44:30 What’s Mark reading at the moment?
50:30 And then, somehow, the conversation shifts to UFO and conspiracy theories…
57:10 Ben explains more than anyone ever wanted to know about Little Bird – the song he recorded in Saddam’s toilet in Iraq
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
External Links
Kill Kapture – Mark’s ‘tough luxury’ company. And home of the best leather jackets on the planet.
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Ben Pronk - not available anywhere (with good reason)
Thursday Jun 09, 2022
Thursday Jun 09, 2022
This is a very special episode of the Unforgiving 60 podcast. Over the years, we’ve spoken with a number of people who have suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – and a number of people who are helping those who are suffering. But while a lot of the focus is – rightly – placed on the individual with this diagnosis, it’s rarely just that person who is impacted. In this episode, we get to hear the perspectives of both an individual who has fought PTSD – as well as his amazing partner.
Cam Watts spent almost 14 years in the Australian Federal Police and as a result of his service, developed the symptoms of PTSD and was eventually diagnosed with the condition. The one constant in this tumultuous journey was his wife Sharn. In this episode, Cam and Sharn share their stories and talk about how they’re now using their experience to help other families.
6:33 How Cam and Sharn met – and what Cam was doing at the time
11:55 A bit of a primer on the difference between the Australian Federal Police and the state police services
14:19 Sharn’s backstory
18:19 Sharn’s experiences setting up a small business
20:45 What makes yoga so important to Sharn?
23:45 What exactly is PTSD – and when did Cam realise that he had it?
28:00 Coming to terms with PTSD – from a personal and professional perspective
33:10 What brought on Cam’s PTSD – was it a single incident, a constant series of traumas – or a bit of both?
38:30 Sharn’s perspective – how she first became aware that something wasn’t right. Plus – the psychological dangers of over-flexing your ‘fine’ muscle!
56:05 Getting a formal diagnosis – and what happened from there
1:06:05 The impacts on Sharn – ‘no-one was looking out for me!’
1:12:35 What advice would Cam and Sharn give to people going through similar experiences
1:23:18 Fortem – one of the ways that Cam and Sharn are using their experiences to help others. And an organisation which works to support the families as well as the impacted individual
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60
External Links
Fortem Australia – supporting those who defend, protect and care for our community
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Friday Jun 03, 2022
Friday Jun 03, 2022
WARNING- This powerful and inspiring episode also discusses eating disorders and related mental health struggles.
Liv Robinson’s first few decades of her life were a huge struggle. She found it hard to fit in to ‘normal life’. She battled with anorexia and related mental health illness which left Liv fighting for her life on a number of occasions.
Sport, creativity & Art were Liv’s invaluable tools to recovery. She now uses art as a form of therapy for others but also for team building and self awareness.
03:30 About Liv….. and insights from our tiny shower cubicle podcast studio.
06:50 The 800-pound gorilla in the room- battling anorexia
09:20 The pressure from school and expectations
12:10 ‘How hard can this be? Just eat something!’. Why that doesn’t work for anorexia.
18:00 Cycling in and out of good-bad-good health and the culminating point
22:00 Liv reinventing Liv … the power to choose your own identity
26:30 Liv’s mindset… noting that mindset can be negative and positive
29:00 Liv 2.0 arrives
32:15 Let’s talk Art! The formal study….
35:00 What piece of art has moved Liv the most in her life?
39:00 Female form and oceans
39:45 Working for UHNWI… and how to inspire workforces
42:20 How to use art as therapy
44:00 Massive murals….. how to do it!
47:50 Liv’s dream for art
53:05 What about art to buttress resilience?
57:00 What does Liv do for Liv
58:30 What is Liv’s Power Song! (See the U60 playlist on Spotify)
59:00 Is there a future collaboration……… ???
External Links
https://www.artworksbyliv.com.au/about-me
https://www.facebook.com/livrobinsonart/
https://bluethumb.com.au/livrobinson-artist
More About Us
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter, Facebook & Linked In: @Unforgiving60
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Mitchell Martin - available on Spotify
Monday May 30, 2022
Monday May 30, 2022
Shannon Polson was one of Americas first female gunship pilots. We talk flying and that incredible aircraft but also climbing, losing loved ones and grit and resilience.
After a childhood in Alaska, Shannon studied English literature and art history at Duke University then commissioned into the Army to fly Apache helicopters, serving on three continents and leading two flight platoons and a line company.
In the midst of school and flying came skydiving, scuba diving, big-mountain climbing and long-course triathlons. She climbed Tim’s dream mountain- Denali.
Now she devotes her work to speaking, research and writing, as well as online and bespoke facilitated leadership journeys for leaders at The Grit Institute.
Shannon has an MBA from the Tuck School at Dartmouth, and an MFA in creative writing.
05:00 Shannon’s background…. And swimming in Alaska!
07:20 What is ROTC in the US… and how does that allow you to fly Army helicopters?
09:00 Learning to fly helicopters…. Rub your tummy and pat your head!
11:10 What are the roles and responsibilities in an Apache gunship…. Tandem seated!
12:10 How do two pilots in the same aircraft collaborate and cooperative?
14:50 Ben talks about receiving air support in Afghanistan
17:20 Shannon’s advice for women wanting to fly in the military
20:00 Shannon climbs Denali….. the story J
25:00 Tragically Shannon loses both of her parents …. the story L
28:00 Interlude- Information on The Resilience Retreat off Cairns
29:15 What is resilience to Shannon?
33:15 Ego and self efficacy…. And grit and resilience
37:50 Talking transferrable knowledge from the military into corporates
40:30 Advice on determining purpose in work- Paths to Purpose at Tuck School
43:20 How can we separate role and identity?
50:45 Shannon’s Power Song!
External Links
The Grit Factor book by Shannon is here
Shannon’s LinkedIn
More about Shannon from her Instagram
More About Us
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter, Facebook & Linked In: @Unforgiving60
Music
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify
Thursday May 12, 2022
Thursday May 12, 2022
Melissa Wu is an Australian treasure- and of course Olympic, World and Commonwealth Games Diving medallist! Starting diving at 10, Melissa immediately fell in love with the sport… and here we are 20 years later. In 2008 she was the youngest Australian ever to win an Olympic medal in diving, and she is still medalling including in Tokyo 2020 Olympics where she won Bronze in the 10metre platform.
But she doesn’t much like water!
We talk motivation and how Melissa remains focussed and in the moment.
More recently she has been on SAS Australia, and she explains why a professional athlete would want to go on a reality TV show, and what she learned from the experience.
04:20 Melissa’s dislike of water!
06:20 Melissa gets captivated by diving
08:30 Shout out to Ruby!
10:20 What about motivation?- how Melissa gets and stays motivated
13:10 What about failure?
15:00 Subjectiveness in diving
17:45 Emotional regulation techniques
21:50 Why Tim couldn’t dive from the 10 metre tower
25:30 Poolside Sudoku!
27:20 How does synchro diving work- how do you prepare as a pair?
32:20 Tower, pool and venue differences
38:30 Talking SAS Australia- why did Melissa commit to the show?
40:40 Bodyweight and moving mass- how did Melissa go?
42:20 What Melissa learned about herself from the show?
47:40 When Melissa got gassed (tear gassed!)
50:00 How supportive were the instructors?
52:00 What happens on selection courses when people don’t receive feedback?
56:20 What does Melissa do for Melissa?
1:01:10 The Plans for Commonwealth Games 2022
Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com
Instagram, Twitter and Facebook: @Unforgiving60
External Links
Melissa’s LinkedIn
More about Melissa from her Instagram
Music
Mitchell Martin - available on Spotify
The Externals – available on Spotify
Ben Frichot - available on Spotify